Swinging can add excitement, friendship, exploration and some incredible experiences to a relationship. It can also expose every weak spot you already have. That is one of the most important things couples should understand before getting deeply involved in the lifestyle. The lifestyle usually doesn't create communication problems out of nowhere. It reveals them. Jealousy that was manageable at home may feel completely different when you're watching your partner receive attention from someone...

They push past a “no” or “not yet.” If someone keeps asking after you have already declined, tries to negotiate your boundary, or acts offended by it, pay attention. They speak badly about everyone they’ve played with. If every ex-partner, couple, single, or club member was supposedly “crazy,” “jealous,” or “the problem,” there may be a pattern. One person in a couple seems hesitant or checked out. If one partner is doing all the talking while the other looks uncomfortable, avoids eye...

Jealousy is one of those subjects people sometimes do not want to admit exists in the swinging lifestyle. But it does. And that is normal. Being open-minded, sexually adventurous, or comfortable sharing experiences with your partner does not magically turn off every emotional reaction you have ever had. You can be excited about seeing your partner with someone else and still feel a little jealous. You can agree to something ahead of time and discover that watching it happen feels different...