For the Newbies!!

Be clear on your why

Know why you are going: curiosity, fun, connection, exploration, or community.

Make sure it is your choice, not pressure from a partner or group.

Remind yourself: showing up does not obligate you to do anything.

Set your boundaries before you go

Make a simple Yes / Maybe (ask first) / No list.

• Yes, You Are Welcome To Come To A Party

  • Yes! You are welcome to come to a party as long as you come with respect, good manners, and an open mind. Whether you are bi, gay, straight, curious, or still figuring things out, what matters most is how you treat people.

• Respect Is What People Care About Most

  • Nobody is going to judge you just because you are bi or gay. What people care about is whether you are respectful, friendly, honest, and able to understand boundaries. A good attitude will take you much further than trying too hard.

• You Will Need To Talk To People

  • Every person and couple is different, so you will need to have real conversations to find out who may be a good fit for you. Do not assume someone is interested just because they are at the party. Some bi guys are open about…

Use these questions as a self-check before your first step into the lifestyle. The goal is clarity, consent, and emotional safety - not pressure.

Why do I want to explore this lifestyle?

Be honest with yourself. Is it curiosity, sexual freedom, connection, adventure, community, or pressure from a partner? Your reason will shape your experience

Am I doing this for me, or to keep someone else?

If you feel like you have to do it so a partner will not leave, cheat, or lose interest, that is a red flag. Consent should be enthusiastic, not fear-based.

What are my actual boundaries right now?

Hey, so you are interested and want to come to The Meeting Place, or you’ve been before but things didn’t go the way you planned. Well, here is a little guide to help you get off on the right foot—or just get off.

How to Get to a Party

Unless you haven't read the profile or the event page (you’re already fucking up), to get to come to a party, just call the day of the party after 12 PM and before 2 AM (There is a 6 single guy limit so earlier is better). When you call, you will talk to the owner of the club. Don’t get smart with her; just answer her questions honestly. Once she gets a warm and fuzzy feeling, she’ll run through the rules and give you the address. (No-shows get banned.) Then you come with your cash, something to drink/smoke, and something to…